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Stereotypes are bullshit

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One can also call this topic “Why I don’t fit and won’t ever want to fit into stereotypes, ever”.

So let’s look at what stereotypes are.

Social Conditioning says (and yes I am referring to Rsd Nation’s Videos):

“One who does or fits certain rules or traits of stereotypes MUST follow the rest of the stereotypes typical indicators”

Now, this sounds silly, I know.

But, …



Here is an example:
But look at it: especially here in Germany, everyone assumes you to be arrogant if you’re a model.
People who are not arrogant though they’re modelling are being looked at weirdly by other, arrogant or better: ‘stereotype-active’ models.

I can tell, because I experienced it. Being nice to “Non-models” or especially strangers is considered so off, that they will either be sceptical towards you or stop talking to you whatsoever.

You could say, that models split into different stereotypes, which is right in fact, but by dividing every stereotypes into more stereotypes, you won’t get similar stereotypes, you get an individual, which is what I am telling you to be.

The truth is, that once you reach high status as a stereotype, your status will crush and fall appart once you leave the stereotype.

The negative side of not being a stereotype is, being inefficient OR not showing clear progress in self development (which is also becoming a stereotype).
You read right, you are inefficient in what you’re doing when you don’t follow social standards, really.



You are of course slower, if you don’t follow, therefor you create.


Your image is becoming stronger the more you develop yourself, so don’t follow, but lead.

Cheers, Wlad C.

How to deal with Depression

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There are two main types of depression, most depressions are ‘software’ related, only some of them are ‘hardware’ related.


If you believe to have a depression, then here are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  • Are you ready to take very high risks (for example driving way too fast or tend to neglet important meetings and friends) ?
  • Do you smoke cigarettes/weed (yes I know your secrets haha) or drink alcohol more than usual?
    • do you feel like you have a certain relieve after consuming it?
  • Are you very unhappy with yourself or your life?
  • Do you lack interest in your hobbies or things you found interesting before?
  • Are you afraid of failure? Especially when you do everyday stuff?
  • Do you even feel like taking your own life?
  • Do you lose control over your emotions regularly?
  • Do you feel the urge to prove yourself to others or to constantly dominate?
  • Do you argue with friends and family a lot?
  • Do you feel like you have to do a lot of sports to feel better?
In the mental state of a depression, it is clearly normal to have less energy and to not feel like doing anything.
Don’t blame yourself here, you are responsible for yourself, BUT one cannot just stop being depressed, so bare with your own.
The best thing you can do, when you are depressed, is to take action.

The most important thing here is to take small steps though.

Even if you’re a tough guy, taking too big steps may wreck your ability to regain happienes and motivation and may set you back by months!


Cheers, Wlad C.

Intelligence

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Now, to say, that intelligence is what you are born with, is total humbug.
But there is a lot or just a little bit you can attend to be more intelligent.

First of all, it is very hard to be recognized as an intelligent being, the intellectual of us find solutions though.

There is a certain difference in those, but honestly, you can google that.

As you are one of a hand full of people to have found this webpage (probably according to my horrible understandings in SEO) you might consider yourself being quiet smart already.

I tell you not.
There is always just a little more you can improve, redo, what ever…

Not to relate every single article, but this also does have something to do with confidence.
The less sure you are when trying to solve a problem ( I know this is not a precise measurement for intelligence) the higher the chance is that you are not confident, or at least not enough.


How to improve your intelligence

Your brain works like a network of multiple computers.
One computer passes information to another.

If one computer is working on a huge problem, it may not process new problems and only be ready to resolve those when ready. You can actually make it pass on the problems to other “computers”.

As you have your unconscious and conscious mind (let us asume, those were the only two),
you may not know what your unconscious mind is working on.

To find out:

How to clear your unconscious mind:

This works best if you don’t have an headache.
Whenever you feel like, in some particular situation you are processing quite slow
you might be “calculating” something.
Try to think about what concerns you.
First start with, what concerns you most, imagine the problem happening right now, see what exactly issues you and what the solution might be.
For example: You sit in a bus, people are talking over you, or at least you feel like it and it makes you uncomfortable.
Later on at home, you feel a little bit stressed. You think about what might have caused it.
Then you think about the bus situation, imagine as if the time stops right in the moment that caused your uncomfortability.
If it was another person, try to BE that person for a while, replay that memory.
Now, after you have replayed it, think about it like this: you imagine what that he or she might have done just before entering the bus. You’ve done it.
Now as you are that person, imagine someone confident that you know being in your situation.
Here, fake that confidence it to make the target uncomfortable.
What do you feel?
After you can answer this question above, you have processed the uncomfortable offence.

You should feel a little less stressed, within an hour or two you will feel better.

Clearing your mind like this is a great step to get some “performance” free to use and gives you more of your mental power.