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Stereotypes are bullshit

One can also call this topic “Why I don’t fit and won’t ever want to fit into stereotypes, ever”.

So let’s look at what stereotypes are.

Social Conditioning says (and yes I am referring to Rsd Nation’s Videos):

“One who does or fits certain rules or traits of stereotypes MUST follow the rest of the stereotypes typical indicators”

Now, this sounds silly, I know.

But, …



Here is an example:
But look at it: especially here in Germany, everyone assumes you to be arrogant if you’re a model.
People who are not arrogant though they’re modelling are being looked at weirdly by other, arrogant or better: ‘stereotype-active’ models.

I can tell, because I experienced it. Being nice to “Non-models” or especially strangers is considered so off, that they will either be sceptical towards you or stop talking to you whatsoever.

You could say, that models split into different stereotypes, which is right in fact, but by dividing every stereotypes into more stereotypes, you won’t get similar stereotypes, you get an individual, which is what I am telling you to be.

The truth is, that once you reach high status as a stereotype, your status will crush and fall appart once you leave the stereotype.

The negative side of not being a stereotype is, being inefficient OR not showing clear progress in self development (which is also becoming a stereotype).
You read right, you are inefficient in what you’re doing when you don’t follow social standards, really.



You are of course slower, if you don’t follow, therefor you create.


Your image is becoming stronger the more you develop yourself, so don’t follow, but lead.

Cheers, Wlad C.

Check your Congruence to fix your Confidence

Sometimes we just “act” confident but project very insecure sings.
Here are a few tips on how to quickly check your alignment of thoughts and actions:

  1. Check your Body language:
    1. Are you standing upright with a straight spine?Fix your posture.
    2. Does your face direct below horizontal or above? Above is good, below is a submissive sign of being unconfident or not feeling that you deserve doing what you’re doing.
      Look up for a few minutes. This might come of a little arrogant, but it’s ok to look like an Asshole for a little while.
    3. Do you unconsciously try to avoid keeping eye-contact?
      Even the slightest escape is submissive action.
      Don’t look directly into the eyes, you can look at their forehead, nose or even their eyebrows or chin. They won’t notice the difference.
  2. Communication
    1. Do you get interrupted quickly by the person you’re speaking to?
      Focus on what the current situation looks like: Are you taking up as much space as always?
      Does the one who interrupts you have his/her head up and keeps eye-contact longer than you?
    2. People are giving you a weird face when you’re talking to them?
      Fringe your eyes and give them a clear sign, that you understood that they are trying to dominate you right now. Just don’t let them do that and accept, that they don’t want a friendship with you and are only focusing on what they can get out of you.
  3. What are your current thoughts and aims?
    1. Are you merely trying to get a reaction out of someone?
      You don’t need a reaction.
      Assume, that the person you are confronting, is thinking positively about you all the time. Don’t try to force them to do so.
    2. Do you think you have to make everyone else like you?
      That means that you accepted being the beta-male.
      This is alarming if this is not what you are and want to be.
    3. You just want to take care of others?
      You are trying to keep the focus or attention off you and focusing on another person.
      This is showing that you have something to hide. Just don’t.
Cheers, Wlad C.

How to be an Asshole

You heard it right, being an Asshole is important on the way to your Better Self.

Women love Assholes!

But what is an Asshole? Or: what’s so good about being one?


Well, being an Asshole does not mean to be an Asshole.
One has to set limits.

Women like Assholes, because those Guys do care about themselves.

But don’t be rude!

Being an Asshole doesn’t mean that you treat everyone like shit.
But is also doesn’t mean that you have to be nice to everyone either.

Here is the Key: the Asshole is NOT submissive, he has Alpha-Male qualities.
He takes his own responsibilities serious and does not run after Women.

No, he shows interest, without being needy.


No.
I have no time on that day.
etc.

A needy guy wouldn’t say that.

Also, the Assholes tonality is much different from a Needy Guy.

Although the Asshole is being cold to Women, he turns them on by being himself and being self-centered.

You cannot shake his confidence that easily.

Think about it.

How to:

When she’s texting, do not reply to every single text, who are you? Her dog?

Who are you anyway to her, if you always show up when she needs you?
Of course it is a nice feeling to help someone, or to be around someone whenever you think of them.

But, man… Draw a line here!

Do not be clingy, when you clearly do not want to do things for her, just don’t.
She might even appreciate it.

You are the man, you are lazy, you do not want to care about women’s problems, dude!

See yourself as a man. No, the man in your life.
You take the full responsibility for your every action.
So why bother being the Nice Guy?

It might even help to read up, what a Nice Guy really is. But don’t listen to what Women think a Nice Guy is. They will only tell you that a Nice Guy is someone who is cool to be around with, but I tell you: What Woman wants to be WITH a Nice Guy?
Let’s see at, what the actual definition of a Nice Guy is,
a Nice Guy is someone who does not do bad stuff to her. THAT’S IT! The is nothing more to it!
Now, I don’t want you to just go out there and be a total Dick to everyone.
This will only make you come off strange, uncalibrated and very introverted.
Instead, do keep the egoism in you and embrace being an Asshole sometimes.
Cheers, Wlad C.

Recognizing a Plateau

It applies to almost everything.
Girls, Fitness, Business, Trading etc.


“I don’t get better anymore.”
“I am getting worse.”

All results from you being too focused on something.
Let’s say you’re playing guitar, got so much better and are very happy.
Then all of a sudden, you realise that you are not getting better anymore, no matter how hard you try.
You repeat each passage of a song over and over again, but no improvement.
Or worse, your fingers hurt and you just cannot play anymore.

Time to take a break!

But how do you know when your break is over?

Simply do not touch the guitar (or whatever you thought of).
Don’t touch it till the moment you realise, that you somehow forgot about it completely.

You have to wait that long, because you will know that your unconscious mind finished processing the skill.

Now once you did that break, start slowly.
Begin as if you’ve never done it before.
Remember how you started first learning that skill.
Don’t stretch yourself here.

Then, the improvement will come all natural.

Cheers, Wlad C.

Shape shifting

This is also on Lifting your self valuation.
Shape shifting your mind and appearance to other people is quiet tricky.
You are switching between personalities, So be careful.
If you screw it up, you may become less sympathetic to the particular person.

There is a System out there about the 8 Types of people, or women to be exact.
I for myself do not think this System was very useful. Yes there are different types of people,
but how on earth would you know what you are confronting, if these people are most often a mix of different character types.
You do not want to meet anyone who is boring.

Social Calibration


So, here comes the tricky part: to do Shape shifting in a social environment or around different people, you have to be socially calibrated.
That means you have to go out and talk to a lot of people first, before you can switch between different personality types.
Still, at First, even if you are a complete starter, you can try out one personality for each friends circle.
You may struggle at first, especially when meeting a friend from one circle and then another from another circle you have.
They do both, of course, not know the difference.
You may appear creepy when you meet both at the same time.
Here you might have to make people qualify.
You are the leader anyway.
If some person is getting suspicious, you may use some tricks like valuing one friend over another.
Through this, the less valued friend will respect you more, but will not call you to meet anymore, the more valued one will call you more, still you could even screw his/her self image up, making them arrogant.
Here I advise you not to confront two different circles with each other if you are not ready yet.


Example for Shape shifting:

You may use the higher phase (if in control) to meet high energy people to fit in first.
Later you can get to them with a lower phase for them to push you up and destroy your low phase.
If you cannot get UP and have a strong down phase, these friends are the best for you to contact if you need help.
If you are in a casual down phase, you will either need friends who have low energy and some hobbies.
Doing hobbies while in high phase may also boost your skills though.

Intelligence

Now, to say, that intelligence is what you are born with, is total humbug.
But there is a lot or just a little bit you can attend to be more intelligent.

First of all, it is very hard to be recognized as an intelligent being, the intellectual of us find solutions though.

There is a certain difference in those, but honestly, you can google that.

As you are one of a hand full of people to have found this webpage (probably according to my horrible understandings in SEO) you might consider yourself being quiet smart already.

I tell you not.
There is always just a little more you can improve, redo, what ever…

Not to relate every single article, but this also does have something to do with confidence.
The less sure you are when trying to solve a problem ( I know this is not a precise measurement for intelligence) the higher the chance is that you are not confident, or at least not enough.


How to improve your intelligence

Your brain works like a network of multiple computers.
One computer passes information to another.

If one computer is working on a huge problem, it may not process new problems and only be ready to resolve those when ready. You can actually make it pass on the problems to other “computers”.

As you have your unconscious and conscious mind (let us asume, those were the only two),
you may not know what your unconscious mind is working on.

To find out:

How to clear your unconscious mind:

This works best if you don’t have an headache.
Whenever you feel like, in some particular situation you are processing quite slow
you might be “calculating” something.
Try to think about what concerns you.
First start with, what concerns you most, imagine the problem happening right now, see what exactly issues you and what the solution might be.
For example: You sit in a bus, people are talking over you, or at least you feel like it and it makes you uncomfortable.
Later on at home, you feel a little bit stressed. You think about what might have caused it.
Then you think about the bus situation, imagine as if the time stops right in the moment that caused your uncomfortability.
If it was another person, try to BE that person for a while, replay that memory.
Now, after you have replayed it, think about it like this: you imagine what that he or she might have done just before entering the bus. You’ve done it.
Now as you are that person, imagine someone confident that you know being in your situation.
Here, fake that confidence it to make the target uncomfortable.
What do you feel?
After you can answer this question above, you have processed the uncomfortable offence.

You should feel a little less stressed, within an hour or two you will feel better.

Clearing your mind like this is a great step to get some “performance” free to use and gives you more of your mental power.

Dream bigger

Remember High School? Or even Pre School?
You had all those ideas about your future.
Had all these images in your head of how you might be when you grow up.

Did you keep them?

If not, you probably remember being told: “No, that’s not going to work.” etc..

Do not accept wrong perceptions given to you by others.

They have another Perspective than you do.

After seeing this talk, you might also try to use presentational material simpler.

Steve Jobs did it.
Why can’t you do it?