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How to deal with Depression

There are two main types of depression, most depressions are ‘software’ related, only some of them are ‘hardware’ related.


If you believe to have a depression, then here are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  • Are you ready to take very high risks (for example driving way too fast or tend to neglet important meetings and friends) ?
  • Do you smoke cigarettes/weed (yes I know your secrets haha) or drink alcohol more than usual?
    • do you feel like you have a certain relieve after consuming it?
  • Are you very unhappy with yourself or your life?
  • Do you lack interest in your hobbies or things you found interesting before?
  • Are you afraid of failure? Especially when you do everyday stuff?
  • Do you even feel like taking your own life?
  • Do you lose control over your emotions regularly?
  • Do you feel the urge to prove yourself to others or to constantly dominate?
  • Do you argue with friends and family a lot?
  • Do you feel like you have to do a lot of sports to feel better?
In the mental state of a depression, it is clearly normal to have less energy and to not feel like doing anything.
Don’t blame yourself here, you are responsible for yourself, BUT one cannot just stop being depressed, so bare with your own.
The best thing you can do, when you are depressed, is to take action.

The most important thing here is to take small steps though.

Even if you’re a tough guy, taking too big steps may wreck your ability to regain happienes and motivation and may set you back by months!


Cheers, Wlad C.

Check your Congruence to fix your Confidence

Sometimes we just “act” confident but project very insecure sings.
Here are a few tips on how to quickly check your alignment of thoughts and actions:

  1. Check your Body language:
    1. Are you standing upright with a straight spine?Fix your posture.
    2. Does your face direct below horizontal or above? Above is good, below is a submissive sign of being unconfident or not feeling that you deserve doing what you’re doing.
      Look up for a few minutes. This might come of a little arrogant, but it’s ok to look like an Asshole for a little while.
    3. Do you unconsciously try to avoid keeping eye-contact?
      Even the slightest escape is submissive action.
      Don’t look directly into the eyes, you can look at their forehead, nose or even their eyebrows or chin. They won’t notice the difference.
  2. Communication
    1. Do you get interrupted quickly by the person you’re speaking to?
      Focus on what the current situation looks like: Are you taking up as much space as always?
      Does the one who interrupts you have his/her head up and keeps eye-contact longer than you?
    2. People are giving you a weird face when you’re talking to them?
      Fringe your eyes and give them a clear sign, that you understood that they are trying to dominate you right now. Just don’t let them do that and accept, that they don’t want a friendship with you and are only focusing on what they can get out of you.
  3. What are your current thoughts and aims?
    1. Are you merely trying to get a reaction out of someone?
      You don’t need a reaction.
      Assume, that the person you are confronting, is thinking positively about you all the time. Don’t try to force them to do so.
    2. Do you think you have to make everyone else like you?
      That means that you accepted being the beta-male.
      This is alarming if this is not what you are and want to be.
    3. You just want to take care of others?
      You are trying to keep the focus or attention off you and focusing on another person.
      This is showing that you have something to hide. Just don’t.
Cheers, Wlad C.

How to be an Asshole

You heard it right, being an Asshole is important on the way to your Better Self.

Women love Assholes!

But what is an Asshole? Or: what’s so good about being one?


Well, being an Asshole does not mean to be an Asshole.
One has to set limits.

Women like Assholes, because those Guys do care about themselves.

But don’t be rude!

Being an Asshole doesn’t mean that you treat everyone like shit.
But is also doesn’t mean that you have to be nice to everyone either.

Here is the Key: the Asshole is NOT submissive, he has Alpha-Male qualities.
He takes his own responsibilities serious and does not run after Women.

No, he shows interest, without being needy.


No.
I have no time on that day.
etc.

A needy guy wouldn’t say that.

Also, the Assholes tonality is much different from a Needy Guy.

Although the Asshole is being cold to Women, he turns them on by being himself and being self-centered.

You cannot shake his confidence that easily.

Think about it.

How to:

When she’s texting, do not reply to every single text, who are you? Her dog?

Who are you anyway to her, if you always show up when she needs you?
Of course it is a nice feeling to help someone, or to be around someone whenever you think of them.

But, man… Draw a line here!

Do not be clingy, when you clearly do not want to do things for her, just don’t.
She might even appreciate it.

You are the man, you are lazy, you do not want to care about women’s problems, dude!

See yourself as a man. No, the man in your life.
You take the full responsibility for your every action.
So why bother being the Nice Guy?

It might even help to read up, what a Nice Guy really is. But don’t listen to what Women think a Nice Guy is. They will only tell you that a Nice Guy is someone who is cool to be around with, but I tell you: What Woman wants to be WITH a Nice Guy?
Let’s see at, what the actual definition of a Nice Guy is,
a Nice Guy is someone who does not do bad stuff to her. THAT’S IT! The is nothing more to it!
Now, I don’t want you to just go out there and be a total Dick to everyone.
This will only make you come off strange, uncalibrated and very introverted.
Instead, do keep the egoism in you and embrace being an Asshole sometimes.
Cheers, Wlad C.

Establishing the base confidence

As you may or may not know, confidence is more of a skill rather than something you are born with.
Of course you can be raised up to be confident, but everyone has his particular “holes” in their personality.

NOBODY IS PERFECT

Or at least, that’s what they say and what we keep repeating as is sounds logical to us.
In the context of noone being able to know what to do next and how to obtain a higher level of confidence it does have reason.

But first, let me explain, why confidence is so important.
The best way is to take an example out of our everyday life.
We all have a certain hobby, sport or whatever you do what I will not try to guess, we’d like to be good at.
But what defines confidence? And why does it affect our learning and training?

We all had those friends, telling us that we cannot do something.
We cannot sing or we are just not that type of what it takes to be to do something.
Actually, you’re not born with that confidence to throw these harassing words off.

Confidence is trained.

Body language

As people ask me, how to be confident, I will most certainly look at them and tell them to straighten their spine.

Not a big thing, huh?
It’s not. But it’s effect is huge!

Try this:
Stand up straight.
As straight as you can.
Now throw your neck back.
Also, you can try to lift your arms sidewards to take up more space.

This will ensure, that you take up as much space as possible.

Why this is important?

We all express ourselves through body language.