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The ongoing Chain-reaction of Chain reactions

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Or better targeted as the Chain-Reactor in our modern and past society that keeps going on.
It can only be “killed” if there are no chain reactions happening that relate to it and, in my opinion, it even behaves like an either controllable or uncontrollable chemical or atomic reaction.
Sounds hard, but imagine:
Todays’ society is so huge, it seems to be even wider spread than you could ever imagine.
Things like culture, origin, understandings, education, wealth, personality etc. seem to make it look like a very very big and complex tree of connections which is very bizarrely grown, with some branches growing out of others but some growing into each other.
Social media seems to make those little ends of each branch to connect.
Every single branch seems to be unique…
Each junction can be seen as an innovation in the trees growth, making it more and more beautiful the more the tree grows and separates.
But this tree also needs something to stabilise it. Sticks.
Sticks are not unique though, they are just straight wooden sticks. Boring, not innovative.
This means Valuation only happens, when you are unique…
 
Who is unique?
Who is the stick and who is the junction?

 

  • The ones who follow?
  • The ones who listen?
  • The ones who lead?

 

Society already has it’s stereotype of a ‘unique’ person.
But, it is a stereotype.
If you take even minimum Part in anything of those chain reactions, you are considerably DEAD.
Not physically, but your psyche is.
It is trapped in society. You are a stick. A piece of wood that only grows towards the sun and holds the branches and leafs of a tree.
As, for example, the philosopher Kant described: there are roles in society and those roles are very hard to get out of.
The only way for a stick to become unique is to become a branch with multiple junctions of sticks.
If you fulfil the requirements of solely one single role and no more, you are pretty much stuck in your role. More so, if you believe in your own role to be considerably the best role to have in live and all the others either unachievable to you or just unimportant.
Understand, that there is far more in this world to see, to touch and to take part in.
Still, do not EVER become a follower if you do not want to be one of the sociopaths who are massively addicted to validation of others.
Such validation only manifests in your mind, nowhere else.
If you didn’t listen to the validator, you wouldn’t even know the validation manifested itself.
A little tip here were to validate yourself whenever you need it, giving yourself small compliments every now and then and just pumping up your positivity whenever you can.

Think Outside the box

Stop following guidelines given by others.
I just told you had 3 possible roles in that tree, but actually, there is no limitation.
You don’t have to be anything, no branch, no leaf and no stick.
You can as well just become a bird, that just flies away from the tree, that is totally separate from it and can just leave whenever it wants.
The possibilities are endless.
Most people would follow guidelines, but you just shouldn’t. Don’t.
See, our society is merely built on this routine of an average life:
  1. be born
  2. go to school
  3. success or fail
  4. get a job that’s equivalent to your success in school or go to university
  5. get rich, be poor, get poor, be rich…
  6. live the role live gave you…
  7. marry
  8. get a divorce
  9. work
  10. midlife crisis
  11. take vacations
  12. go to a shrink (psychologist)
  13. work
  14. die
Boring, right?

 

Cheers, Wlad C.

Do not listen to your teachers!

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Here I am talking about school teachers, but it also applies to every kind of teacher.

Everyone has gone through their own path in life, especially teachers are quite narrow here.

Most teachers have gone through only one form of education: how to educate in school.


Thats all.
No more than that.
Of course, you can learn from anybody and I am known to think so,
but there is a little something that I am well concerned about and it should definitely concern you aswell.
Teachers can only give small advices, they cannot predict your future nor do they know any form of psychology to be able to tell how you will evolve.
Only you can tell.
AND those who control you.
But to tell you the truth, you first should handle this problem.
Teachers are control freaks.
Did you notice, that some, no matter how smart they are, students are getting bad marks? 
No matter how hard they try?
Teachers don’t notice it, they might not even know about that,
but their instinct of domination is becoming their obsession,
they become depressed, without even knowing it.
It is their depression, their problem. And you are the one who has to deal with it.
Unfair?
NO!

Teachers… teach. Even though they don’t even know what they are teaching most of the time.

They are NOT teaching you how to get better in life or how to handle your future job better.

No,
all you actually learn are two things:

You learn how to become a teacher yourself
and the very important thing:

You learn how to deal with psychopaths.
It is nearly impossible to get top rank marks in school if you do not know how to treat psychopaths and how to deal with their influence.

This is why top students are so important.

They find the teacher’s vulnerabilities and use those without the teacher realizing nor putting any pressure on them.

All they do is comforting the teacher, while also giving them the feeling of being understood.

To finish this of,
do not listen to your teachers, but learn from them.

Cheers, Wlad C.

Check your Congruence to fix your Confidence

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Sometimes we just “act” confident but project very insecure sings.
Here are a few tips on how to quickly check your alignment of thoughts and actions:

  1. Check your Body language:
    1. Are you standing upright with a straight spine?Fix your posture.
    2. Does your face direct below horizontal or above? Above is good, below is a submissive sign of being unconfident or not feeling that you deserve doing what you’re doing.
      Look up for a few minutes. This might come of a little arrogant, but it’s ok to look like an Asshole for a little while.
    3. Do you unconsciously try to avoid keeping eye-contact?
      Even the slightest escape is submissive action.
      Don’t look directly into the eyes, you can look at their forehead, nose or even their eyebrows or chin. They won’t notice the difference.
  2. Communication
    1. Do you get interrupted quickly by the person you’re speaking to?
      Focus on what the current situation looks like: Are you taking up as much space as always?
      Does the one who interrupts you have his/her head up and keeps eye-contact longer than you?
    2. People are giving you a weird face when you’re talking to them?
      Fringe your eyes and give them a clear sign, that you understood that they are trying to dominate you right now. Just don’t let them do that and accept, that they don’t want a friendship with you and are only focusing on what they can get out of you.
  3. What are your current thoughts and aims?
    1. Are you merely trying to get a reaction out of someone?
      You don’t need a reaction.
      Assume, that the person you are confronting, is thinking positively about you all the time. Don’t try to force them to do so.
    2. Do you think you have to make everyone else like you?
      That means that you accepted being the beta-male.
      This is alarming if this is not what you are and want to be.
    3. You just want to take care of others?
      You are trying to keep the focus or attention off you and focusing on another person.
      This is showing that you have something to hide. Just don’t.
Cheers, Wlad C.

How to: Shortcut to Success!

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As you are going through Google, books, conversations, etc. you are looking for a nice shortcut that will bring you quick success.

You don’t want to spend your time for building yourself up, convincing people, go out and experience.

No.

You are here, looking for a shortcut to success, or whatever you want.

There is one.

Everything has a shortcut.

You want to know what it is?

EXPERIENCE!

But how do you gain it?

GO AND TRY THINGS YOURSELF!


Take small steps, but keep going, this is the only shortcut.




Cheers, Wlad C.

Intelligence

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Now, to say, that intelligence is what you are born with, is total humbug.
But there is a lot or just a little bit you can attend to be more intelligent.

First of all, it is very hard to be recognized as an intelligent being, the intellectual of us find solutions though.

There is a certain difference in those, but honestly, you can google that.

As you are one of a hand full of people to have found this webpage (probably according to my horrible understandings in SEO) you might consider yourself being quiet smart already.

I tell you not.
There is always just a little more you can improve, redo, what ever…

Not to relate every single article, but this also does have something to do with confidence.
The less sure you are when trying to solve a problem ( I know this is not a precise measurement for intelligence) the higher the chance is that you are not confident, or at least not enough.


How to improve your intelligence

Your brain works like a network of multiple computers.
One computer passes information to another.

If one computer is working on a huge problem, it may not process new problems and only be ready to resolve those when ready. You can actually make it pass on the problems to other “computers”.

As you have your unconscious and conscious mind (let us asume, those were the only two),
you may not know what your unconscious mind is working on.

To find out:

How to clear your unconscious mind:

This works best if you don’t have an headache.
Whenever you feel like, in some particular situation you are processing quite slow
you might be “calculating” something.
Try to think about what concerns you.
First start with, what concerns you most, imagine the problem happening right now, see what exactly issues you and what the solution might be.
For example: You sit in a bus, people are talking over you, or at least you feel like it and it makes you uncomfortable.
Later on at home, you feel a little bit stressed. You think about what might have caused it.
Then you think about the bus situation, imagine as if the time stops right in the moment that caused your uncomfortability.
If it was another person, try to BE that person for a while, replay that memory.
Now, after you have replayed it, think about it like this: you imagine what that he or she might have done just before entering the bus. You’ve done it.
Now as you are that person, imagine someone confident that you know being in your situation.
Here, fake that confidence it to make the target uncomfortable.
What do you feel?
After you can answer this question above, you have processed the uncomfortable offence.

You should feel a little less stressed, within an hour or two you will feel better.

Clearing your mind like this is a great step to get some “performance” free to use and gives you more of your mental power.